Comments on: Facing Adversity without Lessons Learned

By: Meryl

Meryl — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 13:20:56 +0000

Jackie, I’m glad you can use my story to work with people striving for promotion. I had great interviews with the new department and thought it was a good move since I would get into marketing. I think if I could do it over again, I’d make the same decision based on what I knew at the time. I could not have asked the questions that would have helped me uncover the potential problems.

By: Jackie Cameron

Jackie Cameron — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 12:40:09 +0000

Great story Meryl for a couple of reasons. Of course being up front with a prospective new employer is “the right thing to do ” – especially since the timing and the development of your bump would be hard to explain away at a later date.

However, I so often meet people who are striving for promotion – just because they think that is the next thing to measure their success by ( without serously thinking about all of the other possibilities). I am not suggesting for one minute that that was the case for you but the lesson you learned will be something I will share in future.

By: Middle Zone Musings » All Entries: What I Learned From Adversity

Middle Zone Musings » All Entries: What I Learned From Adversity — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 11:02:26 +0000

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By: Meryl

Meryl — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 14:23:27 +0000

Brad, I live my life as honest and conscientious as possible. Even if someone can guarantee something will work in my favor and no one will find out — it will eat at me.

Robert, thanks for giving me something to write about. I hope this helps others in the same situation.

Avil, wow! That’s great. Never thought my story could help others in a different way.

Andrew, thank you. I never even considered that had I landed the job — and told them I was pregnant after starting the job, it would reflect poorly on me. I guess I was absorbed in the current moment.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:57:23 +0000

Meryl,

Congratulations for having the courage to be out front with your perspective employer about your situation.

In my view, you certainly did the right thing from both your own perspective and from the perspective of your employer.

From your own viewpoint, not being out front with them would have created a very difficult situation months down the track when you had to apply for maternity leave.

Also, from the viewpoint of your employer, they had every right to be informed about any information which could reasonably have been expected to influence their decision.

That said, I can’t imagine that it would have been easy and I congratulate you upon your courage.

Andrew´s last blog post… What I learned from almost being mugged

By: Avil Beckford

Avil Beckford — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 15:20:19 +0000

Hi Meryl, After reading your post it gave me the courage to enter the group writing project. I just finshed writing my post. It’s amazing how much we can learn from others if we just take the time. Thank you for sharing!

By: Robert Hruzek

Robert Hruzek — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 13:01:45 +0000

Merly, facing the music ain’t easy – otherwise we’d think nothing of it! But you did the right thing, and as God promised, in the long run, it all works out in the wash, y’know?

Besides, you’re the one who grew from the experience, right?

Thanks for the entry in our WILF this month, and a big ol’ tip o’ the hat to ya!

By: Brad Shorr

Brad Shorr — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 11:29:49 +0000

Hi Meryl, Your story is a fine example of why “it always works out for the best” is more than a platitude. Good for you having the courage to be honest – and good for us to learn “honesty is the best policy” is more than a platitude!

Brad Shorr´s last blog post… Overcoming Adversity in Sales – A Short Story