Finding the Time to Write

by Meryl K Evans | Category: Books, Meryl's Notes Blog, Writing 13 comments

Welcome to meryl’s notes blog (this here place you’re lookin’ at) in Plano, Texas (OK, the blog doesn’t live on a server in my house — but that’s where you’ll find me… in Plano, not in the server). We’re happy to be a stop in Claudine Wolk’s WOW! Women On Writing Blog tour. Here’s a bit about fellow hybrid mom (Moms who work) and author of It Gets Easier!…and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers Claudine Wolk… (Stay tuned in this long post if ya wanna win her book!)

About Claudine Wolk

claudine wolk Finding the Time to WriteClaudine Wolk is a CPA and mother of three. She lives in Bucks County, PA with her husband Joe and her children, Joseph, Casey & Ally. She writes columns as well as magazine and newspaper articles on all subjects regarding motherhood in the 21st Century. She also is available for humorous but informative workshops on the subjects of “new motherhood” and “mothers returning to the workforce.” Visit Claudine at her web site: Help4NewMoms.com.

How Can I Find the Time to Write? by Claudine Wolk

It’s a question many aspiring writers ask. How can I find the time to write?

Well, the truth is, while I did keep a notebook of ideas, research and interviews while my three kids were babies, I didn’t really get serious about finishing a book until my youngest was a toddler. However, once I made the decision to finish the book, I did have success finding time to write the book after I did one very important thing — I decided that the book was important enough to spend time away from my family, chores, house to work on. I think that decision can happen to a writer at any point in their children’s lives.

The trick is to decide to do something that you have passion for, that may or may not make any money and that has nothing to do with parenthood. That’s a tough decision, especially when money is such a necessity. The reality is, though, not every decision you make about how you spend your time, has to be a financial decision. This concept is tough for folks to grasp. We are so programmed to think that any time spent away from the family must result in some kind of monetary reward that we put off doing the things that excite us.

Once I made the decision to explore the possibility of producing a book, finding the time to write was pretty easy:

  • While the kids slept for naps and in the evening. (Not too late, though, as sleep is very important.)
  • Waking up extra early before the family was up. (I was infinitely more motivated to wake up early to write, than to wake up early to exercise!)
  • Hiring the occasional babysitter during the day so I could edit or finish a chapter of the book.

This last option was the most challenging to justify. How could I pay a babysitter when I wasn’t bringing in the money to pay for her, let alone at a loss? But a realization finally hit me: the time I was spending in writing my book was important. I was laying for the groundwork for a potential new career, for a potentially money-making book, and most importantly, for my own well-being. Those feelings of well-being, of feeling fulfilled, transferred to my family. In short, I was a better Mom. In the end, it was well worth the money and it has paid off.

In essence, I have created a new career for myself, a career that I never knew I always wanted. I blog for my own blog at help4newmoms.blogspot.com as well as for hybridmom.com. I write for parenting magazines, comment on parenting message boards, and contribute my parenting expertise to any freelancers who will have me. I also speak to groups: Moms Clubs, Mom Groups, Local Networking groups, and Baby Expos all over the country. The work has been rewarding and it’s growing in scope. I hope to make a full-blown career of it.

In addition, I’ve learned how much I love the publishing industry: the marketing, the writing and the publicity. I’ve learned and continue to learn so much of the business, hands on, that I sometimes consult other authors interested in self-publishing. As well, learning and utilizing social marketing on web and creating and monitoring a website are skill sets that can be translated to any business.

In the end, by exploring a passion I had to help new moms, I’ve landed a brand new career that is fulfilling and flexible as well as producing a humorous and helpful guide for new moms that will be available to them forever. Demanding the time to explore a new possibility has been a blessing for me and family. Finding the time to write was well worth it.

About It Gets Easier! … And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers

it gets easier Finding the Time to Write“There is no question that being a mother is challenging, but this fun, frank, and prescriptive guide tries to do the impossible and make new motherhood easier. Featuring interviews with hundreds of moms and candid stories from author Claudine Wolk’s own experiences as a mother, It Gets Easier!…and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers mixes humor, honesty, and insider strategies that will give new moms a ‘leg-up’. This upbeat and entertaining book drives home the point that new moms are not alone and that there are things they can do to make motherhood a little more controllable and lot more enjoyable. Complete with resources for further exploration and a helpful glossary, this funny, irreverent book will help ease every new mother’s frustration.”

Your Turn: Win Claudine’s Book

Leave a 50+ word comment in this post by 11:59pm on November 4. That’s all ya gotta do to be entered to win this book. Share a favorite parenting tip or a time management tip. The unbiased and robotic Random.org will pick the winner.

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  • Posted by Kim Priestap on October 29th, 2009, 8:41 AM

    This post describes perfectly what I am experiencing right now. I’m a mom of three great kids and am just starting a freelance writing career. I’ve been blogging for about four years now, but writing professionally has a whole different vibe to it. A lot more is on the line.

    I have implemented a similar schedule to Claudine’s. I love getting up around 5:30-6:00am to write (not exercise!). I also write while my 23 month old son naps. When he’s awake, many days I find I can sneak away and write for a short periods of time while he plays with his older sister. Of course, I also write when my husband gets home from work in the evenings.

    Thanks for a great post.

  • Posted by Ching Ya on October 29th, 2009, 10:19 PM

    Meryl,
    Thanks so much for sharing Claudine’s work with us. I have yet a new mom although I’m always preparing myself to face THE day. ^^ Her determination inspires me! Being a freelancer myself, it’s always about balancing my time between work and family. My challenge is to minus as much distractions as possible; have to be willing to sacrifice unnecessary entertainments like watching TV or window shopping. I try to treat my weekday as any of my previous day jobs; so during weekends I can spend time with family as supposed to.
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  • Posted by Joanne on November 1st, 2009, 8:29 PM

    I get the sense from your insight that the time you spent writing your book, and so developing a career, is in fact justified because it is an investment … and with a great return! I second that idea completely, time wisely used is never a waste.
    .-= Joanne’s blog …Fall Book Club =-.

  • Posted by Andrew on November 2nd, 2009, 5:33 AM

    Claudine/Merryl,

    Being a male, I will never experience, nor fully understand, the challenges associated with motherhood, especially (but not only) where:(a) where multiple children are involved; or (b) you hold down a full time job in addition to your parenting responsibilities.

    But I could certainly imagine that being a full time parent would be pretty full-on, and that you would need a healthy break and a little time out to do something for yourself if you are to be effective as a parent.

    That said, I certainly take my hat off to any mother who has the discipline to find the time to pursue writting in addition to the fullfillment of their other duties.
    .-= Andrew’s blog …Should models be sacked for being ‘too fat’ =-.

  • Posted by Meryl on November 2nd, 2009, 7:40 AM

    Joanne, right on. I think people believe many writers are overnight successes when it’s quite the opposite.

    Andrew — hey, dads are parents, too!

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  • Posted by George Angus on November 2nd, 2009, 9:31 AM

    As a single parent, I totally relate to the juggling of commitments and time.

    Heck, it’s hard enough trying to be a single Dad without trying to write. My daughter is the most precious thing in my life. I can’t/won’t ignore her while I tap on the computer. (She’s six)

    I get up at 5am every day so I can get in two hours of writing before I have to get her up and ready for school.

    George
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  • Posted by Claudine Wolk on November 2nd, 2009, 11:39 AM

    All your comments are so inspiring for me, too. It is always a struggle to find the time to write and at times I feel like giving up. Hearing you all face the same challenges and continue to do it, keeps me at it and on track, right back at you, thanks for your word of wisdom.

  • Posted by Meryl on November 3rd, 2009, 7:30 AM

    George, great to get a dad’s perspective. It’s wonderful that you recognize the importance of being there for your daughter. I know this should be obvious for all parents, but it’s not. She’s lucky to have you.

  • Posted by Claudine Wolk on November 3rd, 2009, 8:51 AM

    Joanne – The idea of investment is such a great way to describe what we are doing – especially when we need to explain it to a partner who may not understand the reasons why. Thanks for the perspective.
    .-= Claudine Wolk’s blog …Help4NewMoms October Newsletter Starring a Must-Have LipGloss =-.

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