And the fun stuff because we need to have fun!
No rule book exists to tell us how to behave ourselves in social media. With no eyes peeking into ours, we forget real people are out there reading our stuff and we make an impression with every sentence we write online. A colleague told me about an agent who posted in public that his or her writers were undergoing plastic surgery and a vasectomy. Joke or not? Who knows. But even if it was a joke, not everyone read it that way.
Social media gives writers a place to find and connect with writers, editors, agents, readers, publishers and others in the publishing and media industry. Keeping your name out there not only leads to gigs and opportunities, but also shows future clients and publishers that you already know how to market your work. Don’t think marketing is important enough? You might want to read Jane Friedman’s 5 Questions for Those Who Don’t Have Time to Market/Promote.
So, here are 10 commandments to do right on social media, build up a following and mind your manners.
This helps you get a feel for how people use the social media site or blog. It also encourages you to respond to others after you’ve heard them. Chris Brogan offers tips on listening.
2. Thou shalt do unto others to help without any expectations in return
One word: Karma. Even if karma isn’t real, helping others makes you feel good about yourself and drive you to do more. Plus, people will remember you for it and it’ll strengthen your relationships. Sarah Evans asks, “What have you done for your community today?”
3. Thou shalt read a diversity of resources and people
Spread your eWings and visit blogs, Twitter IDs and other accounts you haven’t read (check blogrolls, Twitter followers, etc. to find new ones) and check your friends’ connections. Sticking with same people limits your ability to meet others.
4. Thou shalt respond
If people ask you a question or take the time to leave a comment in your blog, you can take a moment to reply. Notice this says, “Respond,” not “Respond to every single message directed to you.” It’s overkill to thank every single person for mentioning you, retweeting you, linking to you. Instead, return the favor by pointing to their stuff, responding in private or commenting on something else they wrote.
Also, write more than “I agree,” “Great post” and “Thank you.” We have so much content online, a lot of it wasteful. Compliments are always nice, but not in a public response that adds clutter. Email the person, if you can’t think of anything else to say.
5. Thou shalt be genuine
Be genuine about mentioning and promoting others. Be genuine about the things you say. Be real. Be you. Some mentioning other people come across as phony looking to ride the wave of someone else’s popularity or kiss up to that person. You love it when someone mentions you, right? And you tend to remember them better, right? Well?
When you write a blog, article or tweet — look for genuine opportunities to link to other people’s stuff, quote them or credit them. Notice this post has a few links to other people’s high quality content that explores a topic further for those interested. Bonus points if you mention a competitor.
6. Thou shalt play nice
It’s incredible how many arguments turn nasty online and how many people say things in a mean way. We all have different opinions. (That’s a good thing — it’d be a dull, dull world otherwise.) We just need to remember to play nice and show respect. It goes a long way.
7. Thou shalt remember that everyone can read your content
Mom, kids, editor, publisher and people who might hire you. You’ve probably heard a few of the stories about people landing jobs only to lose it because of something they said online.
It’s also wise not to cuss in public. Granted, some popular folks cuss. But not everyone can get away with this. You wouldn’t cuss in a job interview, would you? Think of the Internet as one big job interview. After all, writers don’t always do one gig forever.
8. Thou shalt not obsesseth with thy numbers
Email newsletters … Twitter followers … Blog comments … Blog readers. People email me asking how I got so many Twitter followers. Well, it didn’t happen in one night, one month or even six months. But who cares how long it took? The point is to have high quality conversations. Spammers have figured out how to gain high numbers in Twitter — so obviously, quantity means nothing.
Listen and deliver valuable stuff. They will come.
9. Thou shalt not gossipth
The kind of talk of someone else’s private business makes a person look like a gossip and future clients might fear you’ll gossip about them. Yes, skip sharing private details even if the subject is open about it.
10. Thou shalt forgo the hard sell
Social media helps you gain trust and credibility, which will build your relationships. People WILL connect with you and ask about your content. When you do, at least add value by telling people what they get out of it. How much should you self-promote? Maria Schneider thinks 60/40, but I believe it should be closer to 70/30. That’s between Pareto’s 80/20 and Maria’s suggestion.
Not convinced that writers need social media? Maybe Joanna Penn can convince you.
Agree? Disagree? Please share your thoughts in comments or create a blog post of your own and let us know about it.
Want to win a book? We have a few authors stopping by here. Caryn visited yesterday and more will be here in upcoming weeks.
Still need more nominations for favorite books on writing before we take a vote.
And for fun because we’re allowed…
Don’t assume my reading Get Known Before The Book Deal: Use Your Personal Strengths To Grow An Author Platform in any way hints that I want to be known or that I am planning on getting a book deal. In fact, every writer and business expert will benefit from reading the book because it helps with marketing your work by building a platform.
“Platform?” you say? “But I’m not entering for Miss (or Mr.) America and I am sure you’re not talking about that thing speakers stand on.”
You’re right that those are platforms, but writers and experts need another kind of platform in between the speaking they do. Christina Katz’s definition of platform follows:
A platform communicates your expertise to others. It includes your Web presence, any public speaking you do, the classes you teach, the media contacts you’ve established, the articles you’ve published, and any other means you currently have for making your name and your future books known to a viable readership.
Many people write because they enjoy the work and love the thrill of seeing their work published. They don’t do it because it means fame. Smart writers know they need name recognition to lead to bigger and better assignments. Writers who plan to publish a book soon or in 10 years need to build a platform starting now. It’ll increase your chances of landing a book deal with publishers if they know you’ve established yourself and did your own marketing and PR.
Katz outlines everything you can do to build that platform of yours. The book splits into three parts: Defining platform, marketing and putting everything together. She offers actionable ideas and assignments on how to identify your platform. Once you figure that out, she goes on to show you how to capitalize on your platform with a variety of activities and exercises (not the floor kind) with some you already know and others you might not have considered.
Before I finished reading the book, I took steps to pinpoint my platform (still am). Some how to books overwhelm the reader and don’t identify a clear place to start or they throw too much at the reader. Though Katz lists a diversity of things for writers to do, she does it in a manner that compels you to take one action at a time rather than make you feel overwhelmed. And that’s the sign of a successful how to book.
If you like online and blog writing, you’ll love Katz’s first-person, easy-going and straight-forward writing style that comes across like a teacher or mentor who cares about your success. I recommend reading the book all the way through the first time and start doing her suggested activities while you read the book. Then refer back as you complete activities to find the next thing to do in building your platform.
Platform building never stops even if you become a best-selling author with a solid platform. You still have to make sure it stays standing. This book applies to anyone who wants to be an expert on a topic while landing new opportunities whether it’s a authoring a book, keynoting or being the go to expert for a specific topic.
How did you pick your platform? Or if you don’t have one yet, how will you identify your platform?
On the original 9/11, I was in my corporate job in Richardson, TX. I could not believe what people were telling me about airplanes and World Trade Center. Of course, the Internet was overloaded with everyone wondering the same thing. Took hours before we got the full story. I hope the survivors and the families of those who passed are doing OK and carrying on as their loved ones would want them to.
And for fun because we’re allowed…
My favorites that I haven’t posted here from CNN 10 Humor Sites…
Facebook defines Facebook Pages as “A public figure, business, or brand can create a Facebook Page to share information, interact with their fans, and create a highly engaging presence on Facebook.” Facebook confuses many with its “Facebook pages” because of how it uses the word “fans” on those pages.
The Meaning behind Fan
Many of us writers and small businesses don’t like the connotation that comes with the word “fan.” I’ve also talked to some folks who aren’t bothered by it — I think the whole “Fan” name is split in the middle. Half hate it. Half have no problem with it.
If you want to join a Facebook page, its button says “Become a fan.” Even Facebook’s Q&A about Facebook pages uses the term “fan” often.

Most Popular Pages
The following people have the most fans as of this writing. With names like this leading the pack, some writers fear they’ll send the impression they’re known enough to have fans of their own. Not all of us feel this way. We just want to share our knowledge and information outside of our individual profiles.
Not one writer in that list. Stephen King has 60,000+ fans. Not even close to the pages with the most fans. How’s this for comparison? Ferrero Rocher (candy) has over two million fans.
Furthermore, when creating a Facebook page and sending an email — see below screen shot — encouraging others to join, the note says, “So ‘n so became a fan of Mr. Hotshot on Facebook and suggested you become a fan too.” With a message like this, many especially freelance writers and one-person businesses — will shy away from creating Facebook pages because of what it implies.
Pages vs. Groups
“Pages can only be created to represent a real public figure, artist, brand or organization, and may only be created by an official representative of that entity. Groups can be created by any user and about any topic, as a space for users to share their opinions and interest in that subject. Pages can be customized with rich media and interactive applications to engage Page visitors. Applications can’t be added to groups.”
People tend to choose Pages over Groups because they have more features and capabilities. Facebook only allows you to send email up to 5000 members in a group. Search engines index Pages, but not Groups. Admins of Groups have more control than those managing pages.
Mashable explanation on two features: “Groups are great for organizing on a personal level and for smaller scale interaction around a cause. Pages are better for brands, businesses, bands, movies, or celebrities who want to interact with their fans or customers without having them connected to a personal account, and have a need to exceed Facebook’s 5,000 friend cap. ”
Softening the Fan Blow
Most of us including freelance writers have individual profiles. Only you can have that profile and it must represent you. Rather than creating Facebook pages for a person’s name or business name, perhaps consider setting up a fan page for the topic in your area of expertise. It’ll be easier to share valuable information and people may be more likely to join when it’s about a topic than an individual or company.
A Facebook page already exists for your topic, you say? Join and participate that page. When people see you interacting, they’re more likely to check out your profile or request a connection. Still want your own? Think of another angle or approach for yours.
You can certainly set up a page for your product or service with the idea of sharing tips on how to do things faster or more effectively. Just take care not to come across as salesy or promotional.
You can create a page or create a Group whenever you’re ready. .
Facebook, Dump the “Fans”
Why don’t we just do away with every mention of “fan” and replace it with “pages.” “Join this Facebook page” instead of “Become a fan.” The email could say, “So ‘n so has joined the [name of pages] on Facebook and suggests you join too.”
What do you think of Facebook Pages? Or how do you use Pages vs. Groups?
And for fun because we’re allowed…
Yeah!!! Did that sound too happy? I think summer would be more valuable if we stretched out the school year and have two to three week breaks at a time. Then, older kids would miss out the opportunity of having summer jobs or doing special programs. Eh, it’ll never change.
And for fun because we’re allowed…
LinkedIn can do more than just grow your connections and look them up. I love using LinkedIn Answers, which gives me an opportunity to ask questions to the vast network. Some of you may not have discovered this feature or realize it can help you with an assignment. Take advantage of LinkedIn and all of your connections.
ShortURL to this post: http://bit.ly/linkedinwriters
What other ways do you use LinkedIn for writing?
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